This is me and my dog, Ginger. I love dogs — but more importantly, my dog loves me. At least, it feels that way. She helps me cope in these confusing and troubling times. When I’m stressed, all I need to do is spend some time with Ginger — petting her, cuddling, just being together.

My favorite thing, though, is taking her for a walk in nature. I can wake up in the worst mood, but as soon as Ginger and I hit the dog park, I’m laughing, breathing deeply, and soaking in the beauty of nature — and the hilarious antics of the dogs. Suddenly, all is well.

And this isn’t just “nice.” It’s science. When I make eye contact with Ginger, it increases both of our oxytocin levels — the hormone of love and trust — and calms us. Ginger feels loved, I feel loved, and we both experience lower levels of stress hormones. Together, we reset.

Still, I’ve heard people say they’d rather be with their dog than with any human — that they prefer their dogs over neighbors, coworkers, or even friends. As a lifelong dog enthusiast, I understand this, but I find that view concerning.

No matter how much we love our dogs, they can never fully understand our words and ideas, our need for connection, or our drive to create. They can’t provide us with the deep sense of belonging and identity that human relationships give. Dogs can comfort us profoundly, but only another human can give our lives true meaning and shared purpose.

So if you know someone who feels that humans don’t measure up, reach out. Get closer. Listen and share. Because that person is probably lonely — and yes, one can be lonely, even at a dog park.

My Dog, Ginger — and the Power of Connection